Like a knife twisting in my stomach

That’s what it feels like to lose a case. That’s right. I said lose a case. You can’t win every case. That’s simple reality. I define losing as not getting the judge to decide my client gets exactly what they want. Some of my client’s react to the loss by showing fear, panic, and then crying by my side in court.

I feel like I betrayed them and I feel pain – like someone plunged a knife in my stomach. I used to spend the next day asking myself: “what if I said this, or did that – would I have won?” I have since learned that beating myself up does not help anyone. I do my best on every case. My VERY BEST. I still experience a sense of pain sometimes. But I don’t go home and celebrate my fee – win or lose. That’s what most people imagine about divorce lawyers. They couldn’t be more wrong.