Fear Drives the Process

In the traditional gender roles, fear drives the process. The women worry that will end up on the street without a source of support. The men worry they will be turned into an ATM card while their spouse lives a life of luxury. I think everyone thinks the worst - fueled by television, movies, and a million friends that have gone through a divorce.

More often than not I feel hardened to their fear. I know the process is one of compromise and that life will ultimately go on. Situations pass and life continues. I am a positive person and I try to transfer that feeling to clients. Some of the most rewarding moments happen in mediation. In the beginning the fear hangs on everyones faces. After a successful mediation, everyone starts to crack a smile. They realize the worst didn't happen. Honestly, I wish I could enjoy their relief. But sometimes, all I feel is is fatigue from being so deeply immersed in someone's life.